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OUTLINE FOR CARE FOR CAREGIVERS Without proper care or maintenance, Caregivers risk
becoming ineffective, compassion burnout, and even boundary violations. These
threats endanger both the Caregivers and those being served. This interactive
workshop will explore many facets of the threats to Caregivers and provides
suggestions and strategies for wellness which facilitate ministry and service
effectiveness and longevity. · Nature of our work o Define characteristics of people helping § Vulnerability § Exposure to secondary tramatization, loss § Activates our old stuff o Value of our work o Risk with out work · Survey – Pastoral Care Activity Survey o Complete individually o Small groups – discuss (questions on overhead transparency) § Different types of activities § Activities not listed on the survey § Differenet types of stressors § Different types of vulnerabilities § Feedback to large group · Survey – self-diagnosis o Do along o Directions for scoring on screen · We are finite · Types of relationships o Benign § Majority § Superficial § Often time-limited o Depleting § Service § Respond to the needs of other o Replenishing § Build back § Contribute to each other, mutually beneficial § Recognize, we don’t create love, we receive and distribute · Causes for depletion (burnout) · Consequences for depletion o Physical o Emotional o Mental o Relational o Family o Spiritual · Ineffective Coping Mechanisms o Objectification of others § Forms · Humor · Minimization · Coarse detachment § Dehumanizes § Results in objectification of self as well o Attempts to control § Attempts to be the Savior § Dependency · Increase in others · Helper dependent upon other’s reactions for their own welfare § False promises § Disappointments § Helper defining self through others – loss of self o Meet personal needs through those being helped § Needs for … · Emotional closeness · Significance · Being loved · Touch § Often begins with offering what it appears the other may want from the helper o Addictive/compulsive behaviors § Alcohol, drugs § Sex § Food § Buying o Power § With peers § Inside family § In the church o Rationalizations, Intellectualizations · What Can We Do To Avoid This? o Care for Caregivers Self-Test o On Overhead, put thought questions – remain single, not in group o Paradigm Shift: from “What can I do for …(God, Church, Family, Parish…)” to “Walking with my Heavenly Father” · Strategy One: LIVE IN GRACE · Strategy Two: CARE FOR THE WHOLE PERSON · Strategy Three: ACTIVELY MEET MY CONNECTION NEEDS o Define our connection needs o Handout – discuss · Strategy Four: DEVELOP REPLINISHING RELATIONSHIPS o What does this look like for me? o Do I have permission? · Strategy Five: DEVELOP REALISTIC SELF-EXPECTATIONS o Perfectionism? o Being v. Doing § Value as a person § Fellowship v. Fixing o Responsibility o Releasing outcomes o Time use · Strategy Six: ENJOY THE JOURNEY o
Let God be God – let go of what is not my responsibility
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